A few months ago, when new opportunities came into my life, I would think to myself, “If I could just have __________, I would feel complete.”
This is one of the lies I enjoyed telling myself; it somehow made me feel in control.
After receiving news that my potential dream job (that I was offered) decided to take a different direction without me in their plan, I began to feel disappointed in myself. What should have been a time for reflection and prayer, instead turned into seeking Instagram as a temporary distraction.
Others looked to Instagram as a tool for inspiration, but for me in that time, it was the enemy’s way of feeding into my comparison issues. I scrolled further down the successful, picture-perfect, blogger profile with a jealous heart full of self-doubt. I grew weary about my image that was portrayed on my online profile, and I began to question if I was not succeeding because I did not get this dream job.
I thought that the beauty and talents of other women diminished my own, so I was lead to feel that I would never be good enough and never be fully successful.
We live in a world built on the principle that you are only worth something if you are successful. I got so swept up in that damaging view, that I defined that as truth in my heart.
When you chase after applause, it only leaves you thirsty.
Once you obtain that goal that you were reaching for, you bask in that victory… but then here you are again right back where you started, thirsty for more. When you drink from the world you are left parched, but when you drink from the well of God, you thirst no more.
Jesus answered and said to her, “Everyone who drinks of this water will thirst again; but whoever drinks of the water that I will give him shall never thirst; but the water that I will give him will become in him a well of water springing up to eternal life.” John 4:13-14
The worldly “success for personal gain” is evident everywhere. I’ve come across articles, shows, and books that promote the idea of “Chase Your Self Desires.” Chasing a worldly self-desire will lead to a flesh desire.
However, when you choose to put success in the position where God should be in your life, you naturally seek out ways to show off your gifts. God crafted each person with amazing gifts, but it’s up to you to choose whether or not to use them for the glory of His Kingdom or for self-promotion.
Society created this narrative that “perfection is obtainable” — but we can’t demand perfection in a broken world. Success does not define you: God defines you!
What society refuses to realize is that God uses your brokenness to bring glory to His kingdom. When you allow God to move through you with vulnerability for His Glory, live your life in obedience to Him, and seek the Will of God, you’ve achieved success.
Coming through that season in my life, I have learned to look to God, instead of the world, as the answer for truth. I have concluded that putting worldly success as your first priority will never give you validation. So if you find yourself trapped by the flawlessly curated montage of photos of strangers with the toned body and fashionable clothes highlighted on your social media, let Proverbs 31:25 be an anthem in your life.
She is clothed with strength and dignity, and she laughs without fear of the future.
God does not view His children by the amount of success they possess on social media; He views you as a loved, cherished, and beautiful individual who is not defined by the shackles of the enemy. God created each person for a different purpose, so we should not compare ourselves to others when God has already designed you for a unique purpose.
Samantha is a twenty-two-year-old small town Michigan girl who loves to dream about the future. She recently just married her high school sweetheart of seven years, who is her absolute best friend. Other than writing, she does freelance graphic design, modeling, and selling makeup. She has never been a fan of routine, so she likes to dabble in a bit of everything: she believes it keeps life more exciting to be on your toes. She loves Jesus and would not be where she is today without His guidance in her life. Follow along with her on Instagram at @samanthaj.tucker