As women, we wear many hats. Daughter. Mother. Wife. Friend. Teacher. Boss. Coworker. We wear other hats, too. Ones we wish we could return or never have worn in the first place. Brokenhearted. Shameful. Unworthy. Unlovable. Unforgivable. All of these titles give us one resounding message: “You are not enough.”
You are not pretty enough
I am here to remind you that we were never meant to be enough. We aren’t enough because we were never created to be. I don’t have to be enough because Jesus is – and I can rest in Him alone.
One of the most important lessons I’ve learned in my faith journey was discovering my identity in Christ. In high school and college, I let the world define me. I let my parents define me. Boys defined me (man, that was rough). My accomplishments defined me. My mistakes and past defined me. My mental health disorder defined me. I let everything define me except for the true definer of my soul: Jesus Christ.
Knowing who we are as women in Christ is one of the most important aspects of our relationship with God. The enemy’s aim is to steal, kill, and destroy – and that aim is directed at who we are. Because, if he can convince us we are anything other than identified in Christ, his work is done. That lie alone is enough to convince us we will never be the wife we’ve dreamed of being or the owner of a small business or the stay at home mom. This lie paralyzes us in our tracks. It keeps us small. It keeps us bound.
With so much on the line, so much at stake… how do we know our identity in Christ? Does it happen in a moment? Do you have to say a certain prayer and you magically know who you are in Christ? Not exactly.
Salvation happens in a moment. Identity happens in a lifetime.
God is continually reminding me of who I am in Him. And here’s the trick I hope you will hold onto: even when you don’t believe it or feel it, proclaim Christ’s identity over yourself. For months (heck, years) I had to “convince” myself I am a child of God. I am a royal daughter of the Most High King. Even when I didn’t feel this, I spoke it over myself until my feelings caught up with the truth: God’s truth of what He proclaims over me.
So today, speak God’s truth over yourself. Say it over again and again until you believe it. Until your feelings align with what the Word of God says about you as His daughter. Write it on your bathroom mirror, sing it over yourself on your commute to work (not now, of course #covid19), make it your phone background. Whatever it is, just do not stop singing until you believe it over yourself:
I am a child of God.
I am a daughter of the Most High King.
I am loved.
I am free.
I am forgiven.
I am worthy.
I am beautiful.
I am valuable.
I am seen.
I am redeemed.
I am who He says I am.
Speak these truths and remember there is a Father in Heaven who loves you more than you know.
Tatum Joy is a contributing author and editor for Sheis. She currently lives in Dallas, TX where she pursues a Doctor of Audiology at UT Dallas. She moves in May to finish her final year of graduate school in Charlotte, NC. She enjoys bike rides, running, hanging with her girl gang, and has the biggest sweet tooth. Her passion is to use her love for encouragement to encourage the women in her world to know their worth and identity in Jesus Christ!
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